What Kind of Leader are You Off Camera?

When the meetings end, the camera turns off, and the applause fades — who are you then? The version of you in the mirror is the leader your team feels, your family sees, and your body and mind respond to.

Lets dig in.

Picture above is Dr. T in 2015 during photoshoot for her memoir WARRIOR

My company Movement Rx and I are now six weeks into our Veteran Leader Program at Cisco, and a recurring topic in our discussions about leadership and life is this: “What kind of leader are you off camera?” In a world where social media and constant video meetings have become the norm, this question feels more relevant than ever.

Are you the same person off camera as you portray yourself to be on camera?

Picture above is Gary, our Delta Airlines Tech Ops Tour Guide, and his personality in this photo matches perfectly his personality giving the tour.

The Unfortunate Truth is Not Every Leader Off Camera is the Way They Portray Themselves On Camera.

It’s disappointing to meet someone who appears to be a great leader on video, but in person acts unkind or even bully-like. Conversely, it’s refreshing and inspiring when someone demonstrates vulnerability, kindness, and authenticity online—and carries those same qualities in real life. I’ve experienced both.

Recently, I was told about a business owner who was supposedly a lot like me (from my perspective): someone uplifting, invested in elevating conversations about leadership from the inside out. Expectations were high, but when we finally met, I immediately sensed something was off; I got the “ick” factor. The encounter became one-sided, filled with nervous energy, self-promotion, grievances, and personal issues. Not once did this person express curiosity about me—it was all about them.

Of course, I’m not perfect. I’ve had my selfish moments and lost sight of my team at times. But I’m grateful for the awareness I’ve gained from those experiences. It helps me recognize the importance of being consistent and present, whether I’m on camera or not.

To me, how you do anything is how you do everything- on or off camera. This is authentic leadership

Authentic leadership shows up when the cameras are off—when no one is watching but you. Authentic leadership isn’t defined by how we perform when everyone’s watching—it’s revealed in the moments when no one is. The truest measure of leadership is often shaped by everyday choices, presence, and the example we set in unguarded moments.

This picture above is Kendall taking some time from coordinating to just being during our in person training at the Cisco Headquarters in Atlanta Georgia.

Here are some values of authentic leadership:

• Intentional presence is about being fully engaged and available, which demonstrates respect and commitment while strengthening relationships at work or at home. As one Cisco leader recently asked during a Webex call: Do you genuinely want to help your people succeed? By showing up with focus and purpose, leaders can truly support and connect with those around them.

• Leading by example means that everyday actions—like setting boundaries around technology, prioritizing well-being, and demonstrating integrity—send meaningful signals to those around you. Often, your example speaks for itself. Making eye contact and using welcoming body language, whether on or off camera, are crucial elements of nonverbal communication that help build trust and connection.

• Modeling resilience means facing adversity and discomfort with accountability and grit, even when no one is watching. It’s okay to admit when you’re not okay and important to seek support when needed. Prioritizing daily self-care—like the routines and habits that boost your energy and honor your time—can help you recover and become even stronger in the face of challenges.

Here are some reflection questions for you:

• How do you treat your team, family, or community when no one is watching?
• Do your habits off camera reflect your values and the culture you want to build?
• Are you present and intentional in private moments, or do distractions take over?

Here are some action steps for being a more authentic leader ON and OFF camera:

Picture above is of the Veteran Leaders at Cisco Headquarters doing Non Sleep Deep Rest (NSDR) in the middle of their training day.

1. Practice Presence: Set boundaries around your phone and devices—especially during family time or team meetings. Being present creates spaces of trust and connection. A strong practice of presence is mindfulness.

2. Choose Integrity: Uphold the same standards in private as you do in public. Let your actions consistently align with your values.

3. Cultivate Self-Care: Prioritize your health, movement, and mindfulness. A leader’s sustainable energy and emotional resilience is built through off-camera self-investment.

4. Reflect Regularly: Take time to honestly assess your off-camera habits, celebrating your progress and setting new intentions for growth. Regular reflection helps you determine whether your perception of yourself matches your reality, making it easier to align your actions with your values and goals.

The story of leadership is written in the small choices and hidden moments. By bringing our full selves to every arena—on and off camera—we cultivate trust, resilience, and wellbeing in our organizations and homes.